Married at 29 reddit. I have time to continue to work on myself, we aren't getting married for over a year. I know there are so many more important things in this life, but as soon as I turned 25 (and I’m 27f now) - literally everyone I know started getting engaged. -- We are a fan run sub with no affiliation to Lifetime or its constituents. Here's what they had to say: Note: Some responses were pulled from this Reddit thread. I married young and for the wrong reasons, the separation/divorce was acrimonious, and my ex-husband has basically vowed to never forgive me for all the things he’s unhappy about. This could end the relationship, any advice would be welcome. I love my life. At that point it did not feel like much changed in our relationship after the wedding and I really liked that. Literally everyone I know or know of in a long training specialty is insistent on getting married before becoming attendings. she got married at 29 just to get married and immigrate through her husband and she is practically paying the guy. We met at 19, dated for a little over a year I think, lived together at his parents house for something like 2 years, got married at 23. You never know if you’re going to grow apart, if you’ll mature into different people. Is it too late to start dating as a 29 year old guy? How to deal with the anxiety regarding dating? : r/dating_advice Go to dating_advice r/dating_advice r/dating_advice A fan run community to discuss all things Married At First Sight, including Afterparty! Look out for season 17 in Denver, which will probably air Wednesday nights at 8pm on Lifetime and streaming on Prime Video, Google Play, VUDU, and iTunes. I 17F and my boyfriend 19M have been talking about getting engaged in 2026 and married in 2027. Only in my case, I’d been married once already so I was really divorced, not single—which is worse than your situation. 28 F checking in and just got married this year. I turned 30 last week and it was the saddest day of my life. People talk about getting married as if it's as simple as booking a holiday. I married someone my age so we were youthful and share the same hobbies. Recently retired at 63, wife just turned 76, definitely noticing the difference in age. not the very best source to advise overall lol Reply reply More replies Western My (29M) girlfriend (29F) wants to get married ASAP. Not a man, but your financial status shouldn’t be the number 1 identifier if you should get married or not; it should be your relationship. You’ll be A okay my guy!!! There’s plenty of people out there in the world. I got divorced at 33 after marrying my first girlfriend. I didn’t really care to get married but I’m glad I married my husband. A friend of mine who recently got married for the first time in his early 40s always talked about how much he wanted to be married and have a family, and other friends would say "if he wanted to get married, he would have done My mom was married at 18, divorced at 29 and then married my dad at 37 (after I was born) and they've now been happily married for 22 years! She said that she changed so drastically as a person between 20 and 30. Everything is perfect. : r/dating_advice Gaming Sports Business Crypto Television Celebrity Go to dating_advice r/dating_advice r/dating_advice Dear Reddit! How long do you think that a couple should be together before getting married? I am thinking as to the time when you would think that the marriage was a sensible, well thought out decision - and not a too quick and frivolous choice? Closed• total votes Less than 1 year 1-2 years 3 years 4 years 5 years 6 years Voting closed Share We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. But then again 90% of my friends are college educated with the majority with graduate degrees so getting married in the early 20s is just not seen. Met my wife at 29, and all has been gravy from there. What I've learned since is that very little is in my control and timing is different for everyone. Does this raise any concerns or curiosity as to why an attractive girl is still single at that age? Maybe they're picky? or maybe it's their personality? But wouldn't they eventually decide to settle? Edit: She hasn't been in a relationship in about 5 years. How do you deal Sep 10, 2025 · He was married to his wife, Erika Frantzve Kirk, and they shared two children. 29 is when I got engaged but I had to undergo cancer treatment for a year. My husband posted on here about this a few days ago, but left out a lot of details so I'm just going to ask my own question: What's it like to be married and live in separate homes? Backstory: We married November 1st and I instantly started having major health issues. In my country people would call getting married and having kids under 30 early. A few weeks ago, Where are you from? In many countries 29 is a very average age to get married and have kids. I'm a woman who is turning 29 next month, and I increasingly am feeling like I missed my chance to meet someone. Welcome to AskWomenOver30, an inclusive Reddit community where people can ask question to and discuss topics with women over the age of 30. I think the challenge for you will be finding a man whose picker was a bit off and is divorced/out of an LTR after eight or nine or ten years, but who still values LTRs or marriage. 3 Things I Had to Unlearn to Become a Wife: 1. Let go of things you can’t control. I'm at an age now where I have friends getting divorced, and a lot of them either changed drastically or just didn't understand the concept of "the rest of my life". Maybe that means approaching someone first, saying yes to potential suitors you might not usually, experiencing new 17 votes, 60 comments. Reply reply JayZ1979 • People who have been married for a long time, are you still just as in love with your S. Given that it’s probably the most important decision of our entire lives, a 30% chance of avoiding catastrophe just doesn’t seem like a gamble worth taking. We had our daughter (5F) together and after a couple months of consistent cheating she left me and abandoned our daughter. Most people marry in their early 20s but I'm still single and sad. I want to wait till I am ready. Wouldn't you rather find the right person that rush in? I'm 29, never been in a relationship, and feel like I'm going to "age out" of dating and be alone forever while most of my peers move on and start families or whatever. And though it does get me down from time to time that a lot of my friends are getting married, buying their first homes, thinking about starting families etc. I’m 26 and nobody in my friend group is married or has kids. My 29M Girlfriend 28F no longer wants to get married after I put it off Other people getting married and having kids isn’t something you can control. I felt the EXACT same. Reply reply ed_mayo_onlyfans • Getting married before age 25 increases divorce risk, as does getting married after age 32. Mostly, I think your sex life fluctuates and that's ok. Have 2 lovely daughters 1 w/PhD 1 working on MD. Far more laughs than tears though. I feel like such a failure sometimes ( despite being successful in other areas of my life). But we had been dating for 6 years before getting married (and lived together for two before getting married), so we were together for a total of 16 years. I have full custody of my daughter. I feel like i have not achieved anything and delayed marriage for so long. Where were you between the ages of 26-29? Feeling stuck and lost. Life provides hurdles at every stage /age of life, it's how you and your spouse handle those hurdles that make or break the marriage. You're probably going to change a LOT through your 20's. I was 29 when getting married, now 39 going through divorce. Never get married, unless the wife is exponentially richer and has way more assets and money that can be given to you post divorce. Are there any positives? Archived post. You also can’t completely control finding that right person to marry and have kids with. I love him and want a future with him, we share the same goals, are both either We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Most employers offer some sort of policy by default and that could be a viable option. He hasn’t proposed yet and he’s not so thrilled with the idea of getting married. They don’t want to before 30. g. How did you start to accept you may never get married or have a family (for women who really wanted those things)? Take this with a grain of salt as I am a stranger on Reddit and have not been married for 30 years. In some cases, people are ready to get married within a couple of years of graduating college. Marriage is a bad bad deal for men and I pity the fool that marries in 2022. Consider a few things, Reddit is fairly young. Its like 3x annual salary coverage for whoever is getting your assets. That being said I would love to know if anyone else has gotten cold feet? Right now you have little need for a policy but if you would like to have kids and get married it could make sense to lock in a 29 year old health rating. About community Married Sex & Love. So I actually experienced my first breakup at the age you're at now. Sure it was a challenge. I married after 7 years (I was still rather young at the time we got married, at least by my country's standarda). Waited 4. This article gives more in-depth information about the latest research. Reply reply Sukooonn • Those married to someone with a significant age gap (say, 10+ years), would you do it again? Very few of my friends got married before age 29 (specifically 28-35 is peak marriage age for my social circle) which does not leave much time for getting divorced in your 20s. (Back in 2019, he was married for one year and divorced because his x-wife cheated- mind you they were bf/gf for 10 years) Sometimes I feel depressed because friends and cousins younger than me are taking the next steps of getting engaged Not knocking married people at all, but even the single men around my age seem pretty immature. I’m realizing it’s a very real possibility I may never get married or have children, and it’s making me a bit depressed. I am tired of feeling lonely and miserable. The average age for first marriage is 28 for women and almost 30 for men. trueThat's how the church gets people to marry, tell them they can't do this super fun bonding experience until you legally tie yourselves together. What are your values I was married for about 10 years. Look around at your residency programs too, vast majority of seniors are in some sort of long term relationship… Salamalaikum brothers and sisters, i am going through a very rough time right now to the point of heavy depression. On the… I’m in a 10 month relationship but can’t help feel the anxiety that my opportunity is slipping away. A lot of our friends did not marry young, so they can't relate to being married or having children young, especially when things are rough and you just want to vent. Not being married/ having kids while everyone around me does is really affecting my mental health. I'm mid 30's as are most of my friends. I just got married at 29 andyeah I wouldn't recommend getting married at 21 LOL, though I'm glad it worked out for OP. You don't see a lot of 22-23 yo married with children, whereas in the US it seems to be more the norm, at least judging by reddit. I spent years making every plan, driving every decision, managing every detail. We have been together for 3 years. Feb 25, 2021 · First of all, I too was once single at 29. Still not married now, but I do have a wonderful new partner who I'd very much want to marry if it ever came up. It is minimizing the reality: most women DO have those experiences (marriage/divorce, motherhood) before 30. Is there anyone who is truly in love with their spouse after 10 years of marriage? What does it feel like? : r/AskReddit Gaming Sports Business Crypto Television Celebrity Go to AskReddit r/AskReddit r/AskReddit 342 votes, 152 comments. Started a business career after SAHM time was over. 27-29 women 28-31 men The idea of being too young to marry is a new invention btw. I started dating my girlfriend 2 years after breaking up with my ex. People who decided to be unmarried, single or childless in their 40's and up, Do you regret that decision? What is life like? Ive been married for <1 year, but my husband and I have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 9 years. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. If you feel like you're not having enough sex or too much sex, you have to communicate and find your stride with your partner. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage Turning 30F, most of my friends are getting married, and I've been single for over a year and am starting to worry I won't find someone? I got married for the first time last year at 58 after being single for the vaaaaast majority of my adult life. I (57M) and my wife (56F) have been married 28 years and together for 30. By July when I get married I will be 26 and my fiancé will be 23. To other people divorced in their early 30’s: how bad is the dating scene?? Have you been like this over things before you got married? If you have, well I guess she knew what she was in for and she accepted it with fully informed consent. I (26M) have been with my girlfriend for 2 (24F) years. I live in the north east US and I don't know if I can point to a single person I know who married a man younger than 29. Reply reply Wholenewyounow • Anyone notice a trend of Gen Z women getting married very young, compared to Millennial women? My (41F) husband (39M) just found out after 18 years of marriage that I lied about my sexual past and it is crumbling our marriage. This happened two years ago. The life is. Although I’m happy for them, I cannot believe that I am one of the only single Married at 20, baby at 20, 35 years later still happily married. While the pandemic certainly didn't help things, it seems like most people my age are already happily partnered up. We started dating when I was 27. I feel like, when you pass the age of 25, becoming married automatically appears on people's list of expectations. Our wedding is scheduled to take place in just two weeks and I just witnessed something that is making me feel like I am making the biggest mistake in my life. Any advice on staying in when you are done. I’m seeking some feedback on my next steps. I’m so proud of everything he’s We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. But the wedding IS NOT the important thing to plan. 19 votes, 39 comments. TLDR: Getting married after 29 is (mostly) pointless because there's no point when others get to do it at more "prime ages" (20-29) and when there's basically no real benefits to doing it later compared to the benefits of doing it earlier. Regular thoughts included: Did I want to get married? Was I losing a part of myself getting married? Would my identity change? Was there someone out there more suited for me? Was I making a mistake - this was my first and only serious relationship? It was almost cruel how unexcited I was at the prospect of getting married I (28F) married my husband (28M) when we were 18 and 19. I don't… We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I haven't been in a relationship in a few years now. 2 good kids, 2 okayish dogs, 1 shitty cat, decent mortgage. trueEdit: I mean this with kindness and love: Saying you / all your friends are over 30 and single/childless, and then saying my experience isn’t typical for 30+ women is suuuuper invalidating and statistically incorrect. Please tell me I'm not alone. I can understand if she's not married by her early 30s, since nowadays the married age is more centered around the ages of 25-29. Women who had their first marriage 35+. We've been married for 29 years today! Four children ages 24-15, happy times, challenging times and a brush with cancer. You don’t have to lead everything. It was a good marriage for a bit, but in the 86 votes, 32 comments. My father divorced his ex after 28 years and it was like ~POOF~ she was gone from his life. 33 is a weird age. Been married for 29 years. How do you ladies in the same boat handle it? : r/AskWomenOver30 Go to AskWomenOver30 r/AskWomenOver30 r/AskWomenOver30 We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I’d always wanted to get married and have kids, but it looks insanely difficult. I haven My last serious relationship was when I was 21. Met my husband at 29, married at 33, baby born at 38. Been married over 20 years now. I was off the market by 23, which is when I met my wife, and we're all still married to our first spouses. The biggest pros, as I see them, are: Married at 30, husband was 29. 1 day ago · We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Otherwise aim for kids once you are around 30ish and established with a career and have money and stability. 649 votes, 222 comments. It was a mixed bag but I’m now cancer free and will be 31 tomorrow and getting married in 30 days!! Why did you get married? What benefits have you gained from it? Is there something I'm failing to see here? Hi everyone, first time here and hoping for some honest insight It was not just the pain of my ex getting married before me. Personally, despite being married, I don't really have any strong feelings about it (we only got married after many years together to cover certain legal bases while traveling, as we'd been entirely happy living in a robust common-law jurisdiction before). Have a beautiful stepson who brings joy to my life. You can control things like stepping out of your comfort zone. I couldn't imagine a more perfect partner and he was totally worth the wait. , I got married at 29, but we met when I was 24). I saw three engagement announcements just last night on social media. I also think I might be hyper fixating since I'm taking time off work due to an injury. If you want a serious relationship you have to look and be willing to build it up brick by brick. Yet it is part of the dance of life, the agreements we made when marrying. 50 years ago, men and women were starting families at your age. We got married five months into our relationship because we needed up pregnant. My ex-husband and I got pregnant because we were having a lot of guilt sex before we were married. I'm going to be married next year (34F) and reading all the comments so far have been encouraging and heart warming. Generally how do women feeling about dating a newly divorce man that was married for 29 years? Is an extreme case of staying… Of all the married couples you've known over your lifetime, would you say the estimate that half of all marriages end in divorce aligns with the reality? Got my first divorce at 39…married my second wife at 42 who was 25…she divorced me last year…now I’m 50 twice divorced dating a 29 year old. She was physically fit, fun etc. I'd caution that people who set out to get married on a timeline tend to make choices that they wouldn't otherwise make - settle for their partner or pressure someone who isn't committed. now as you were when you first fell for them? Yep. My ex is a terrible person. I saw a stat somewhere that said if you marry for the first time in your 30s you are 50% less likely to get divorced. Anyone feel the same? : r/dating_advice Go to dating_advice r/dating_advice r/dating_advice I quit dating at 29 and did not intend to restart or to marry. I'm very fortunate to be a part of her life! Just curious how old you and your significant other are? Wondering if the average age to get married has changed. That said, the average age of first marriage has risen over the years. I could not ask for more from my life. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. 62 votes, 83 comments. I don't believe it's too late for you. All my friends are also getting married and having kids and whatnot. My family is very anti young marriage and I’m worried about their lack of support but also some part of me wonders if 21 is too young in todays world. I didn't get married until I was 40 and didn't have kids until after that. For anyone married to a surgeon I don’t need to explain all the sacrifice and… Just turned 29 last week and let me tell you, late-20s is even weirder. I'd say the biggest disadvantage can be social. Plus he's super beneficial for me as he helps with my bills/rent and he even helped me get a job, and he just makes me super happy and I enjoy My fiancée "Sarah" (28F) and me (34m) have known each other for about 6 years, engaged for 1. I just think being kind to ourselves after a rough relationship is the right move Most of my peers were late 20s/early 30s when they married, but they'd already been together for quite some time by then (e. : r/AskMenOver30 Go to AskMenOver30 r/AskMenOver30 r/AskMenOver30 Got engaged at 28 just a few months after realizing I was ready and married at 29 just before my 30th birthday. I did NOT know he was miserable at his job and trying to avoid telling me about it so I could fight through my issues, so fell I just turned 29 and I've been single for about 6 years. Are you happy you waited, and why? : r/AskWomenOver30 Go to AskWomenOver30 r/AskWomenOver30 r/AskWomenOver30 11 votes, 19 comments. I’ve been married to my darling hubby for 37 years, he wasn’t my first true love, who was a pos as it turned out but I thought about him and my heart ached for many years. 5 years to have a baby after marriage bc of personal reasons, but got pregnant pretty easily at 37 despite having a lower than average follicle count. Reading Reddit can be a bit scary as most people post about their problems as opposed to their wins and joys. I married at 23, been with him since 19, I loved my marriage and did not feel restricted or anything. How you feel about it entirely depends on the culture you’re surrounded with. Here's everything to know about Charlie Kirk's wife, Erika Frantzve Kirk, and their two children. Getting married young isn't the super scary challenge people make it out to be. So I can understand feeling like everyone's all coupled up by then, but it's definitely not universal. Tons of people get married later in life and have terrible marriages because they can't compromise and have poor communication skills. Everyone in my age is getting married and having kids. Hi, I am curious about the pros, cons, obstacles and stories of being a man married to a female trauma surgeon for example How does family life look like for example? Appreciate anyone willing to share! Thanks! Source: Married at 24, 13 year anniversary coming up in 5 days. I'm a 29-year-old woman who never had a boyfriend. I got married for the first time at 36 and he is 38, also first marriage. Highly recommend living together though, first. I’m now 25, still single, and it feels so painful seeing my friends and acquaintances (some even younger than me!) finding love, getting engaged, and married. Is it better to marry earlier rather than later? If you got married in your 20s, do you think your marriage would have been different if you waited until your 30s? Vice versa. trueIt sounds like you two are mature enough and on the right track, so no, it's not too young. Exactly, I'm from Italy and a lot of people here don't get married until they are 30 and after. What hurt me more was that she got married to a better man. I wasted my 20s to porn addiction and only quit a month ago at 29 but i felt that was too late. 22-25: It's relatively common to get married in this age range. 29 votes, 52 comments. Purely just curious. 63 votes, 227 comments. This month alone 13 people I know posted about their fresh engagements, 4 people got married, and the last of my single friends got into a relationship. She's absolutely Those people are going to wind up divorced. Sure, men on reddit will tell you women have men lining up to date them, but most women are looking for a relationship and not to jump around from man to man looking for something better. I never thought i would feel like this but i am Strangers getting married! Season 17 will be in Denver, Colorado and probably air Wednesday nights at 8pm EST on Lifetime and streaming on Prime Video, Google Play, VUDU, and iTunes. The time needed to heal from this, find another person, convince them to tolerate the med school process, get married, and finally manage dwindling fertility yeah, it's not looking good : ( people can change so much after a few years, but you're ready to financially, legally, physically, mentally commit to a person after just one or two? how can you be 100% sure that you want to have all of that for the next 50, 60, 70 years with this person after only been with them for a fraction of that time? its mental to me, i've been with my partner for just over 2 years and while i know i When age 30, met a woman who was 43. Share Sort by: Best Open comment sort options Best Top New 53M 50F, married 29 years, three adult children and we average 2-3 times a week. I'm also somewhat recently out of a long-term relationship where I thought I "had it all figured out". The average age of first median is 31 for men and 29 for women, which means half of people get married after that age. Do you regret getting married young 24 and younger or quickly? I am excluding pregnancy, because that throws off the process… For women over 35 and not married how do you deal with the pressures of not being married So I'm turning 35 this year and over heard my parents talking with my aunt about me obviously being unmarried and not having anyone to take care of me etc. r/married is a place for married people to discuss things that affect married people. It was like hanging out with your bestfriend everyday! But when he hit 30, he had a crisis, like he was a virgin with me and never experienced anyone else. I’m 21, broke college student and I don’t even like myself how the heck could I be married right now Edit: shit this blew… That means, roughly, the chances of ending up happily married are 29%. Feb 15, 2025 · We recently asked older adults of the BuzzFeed Community who regret getting married to tell us why. O. Everyone my age is married off already (28). So far I rate marriage worth it but your mileage may vary substantially. If you think people are sexually active from 16 to 30 and sleep with 2 people a year average (not many) that gets you to 30 pretty easily without really sleeping around. But I am a married woman who watched my parents go through a divorce at your guys' age. I will be 21 and he will be 23. I got married at 29, which is not considered early by Indian standards. For me, personally, the pros in my married life have nothing to do with getting married at 29. Becoming a wife is a whole other journey. Is your relationship mature enough to enter a lifelong commitment? Are you both mentally and emotionally mature enough to be married? Being protective of your assets is understandable, however if it’s more important than your partner, I think that’s I know I sound like a complete ass right now for dating a man whose married to another woman, but I do really like this guy, and as much as I think cheaters are shitty, it's super hard to just let go of someone you've bonded with, and really care for. And by God’s grace, I’m finally on it. How to survive and thrive. Which is why, for me, it's important to step back and realize that Reddit posts are not the norm of most people's lives. I just still can't shake the feeling of being scared my life is going to fall apart again. All are welcome, please read and abide by the rules in our sidebar. , We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Generally reddit is full of young Americans who also tend to get married young. Reply reply tsukiii • We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. I see my dreams of having a family fading away. If you got married later in life, do you wish you would have married earlier? 33F been with my boyfriend (33M) for 3 years and known him for 4. Jul 2, 2025 · Getting married makes you a bride. 4 days ago · Kalani Hilliker just got married! The 24-year-old dancer and former Dance Moms star tied the knot with beau Nathan Goldman on Wednesday (September 17) in Lake Como, Italy. As someone who had gotten married young (21) and has maintained that same marriage for 20 years. I got married at 22 and here I am almost 40 years later with a lifetime of memories and more to come. I was planning on proposing on New Years. Hubby is the new cook and home keeper. It makes me wonder and stress about if it’ll ever be my turn or if I’ll ever experience love. It's just due to technology and women in the workforce, society has moved the age of expectation by almost a decade (29-34). My then-girlfriend didn't hint about getting engaged--she gave me a lecture that led me to make the move (story posted here). Then I met the right person. I'm 29 now and my God am I glad I didn't get married in my early-mid 20s. She cheated on me with a guy who was married and then married another guy. **Welcome** ********************************* Keep the spice in your married sex life *Is your sex life stagnant and predictable? *Lust and passion have faded? *What has worked to keep your married sex life fresh? *What makes sex with your spouse good? 10 hours ago · "AITA for not letting a stranger get married in my backyard?" I have been living in my house for about 15 years, got it after a family lost it to foreclosure, which is admittedly really sad but also it is what it is. That all being said, my husband is my best friend in the entire world and we’re going to be welcoming our second child in March. Reply reply Sad_Room4146 • Reply reply Original_Painter_542 • i know lol i don't mind her at all. . Share Add a Comment Sort by: Best Open comment sort options Best catymogo • 11 votes, 46 comments. Marrying this young is a GIANT risk and I don’t recommend it to anyone. wpzvhyi ombqgkg lioen dwhyq crofva gphuan uuvoo jsg okbhw bjondcd